Got into it with a coach today. Feedback?

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Looking for feedback and advice, so this is a bit long. Apologize for the length, so please just ignore if you're not willing to offer your opinion. Long story short, my daughter plays for a fastpitch travel team coached by her high school head coach (I was 3rd base coach). He decided late to start his own 18U club and asked my daughter to play with his team, turning down a chance to play with an established 16U team.

He made tons of promises, etc. She agreed. We paid $425 to be on this club, as did all the young ladies.

His team has been an utter disaster, starting 0-13. He is friends with a young lady, all-star player from another team. At a tourney earlier this year, he asked her to play for us, even though she is not on our team, does not pay to be on it, and never, ever practices with the team. Girls who were members rode the bench so this all-star could play instead. At the time, I was also coaching, and told him I thought he was way outta line, that there was no excuse for sitting girls on the team so that a girl who is on another team could play. Told him it was a great way of making young ladies not want to play for him in the future.

Fast forward to today, another tourney. He told me he was doing it again, and I told him again I thought it was a really bad mistake, and that I'd be supremely pissed if it was my kid who sat as a result. He gets into a discussion about how he wants to win so we can get more games. We discuss the challenge we have with most players, including my daughter making errors. He acknowledges that hsi daughter has been perhaps the most error-prone on our team this season, yet she does not miss a start. He asks for my 2-cents, and I give it to him straight, player-by-player.

We get to the park this morning and not only does he start that all-star from another team, he benches my daughter. She has been the starting 2nd baseman in 90% of our games and has played as well, or better than just about anybody on our team, particularly on defense. In the previous day's game we score a total of 2 runs, one because me daughter drag bunts for a single, steals, 2nd, steals 3rd, then comes home on an error. Now she is on the bench. 2 games today and she doesn't get in until the last inning of a blowout loss in the last game. I am steaming mad, certain this prick is pissed at me for being honest and is taking it out on my 16 year old.

Of course, she gets in 1 inning at SS and makes a nice play on a chopper for an out, and rifles home a relay throw that never had a chance, but looked good anyway. She gets up to bat and lays down another beautiful drag bunt the other team knows is coming, and again she beats it out (Did I mention she is very fast?). After the game he comes up to my daughter, wife & me and tells my daughter what a beautiful bunt, etc. He then extends his hand to me, which, biting my tongue I take as I've promised my wife & daughter not to get into with him. But them he starts trying to chat me up, and I tell him to "Save it". He then wants to get into it, and loudly in front of everyone. I tell him it's not the best time, I'm pissed and will talk to him later. But he wants to push it. I tell him it's best we just part ways, "you go your way & I'll go mine", but he won't let it go, saying, "Yeah, that's what you do!". I can;t control it anymore so come back with, "What the hell are you talking about?". He is talking loud in front of team and parents, acting like I've got nothing to say, clearly trying to paint me as one of "those parents". So I go off on him telling anyone who cares to listen, "You don't bench any members of your team so that another girl can play, I don't care how good she is. She is not on our team. She did not pay the club dues, she did not go to the 3-a-week practices", etc. I try to walk away, but he snaps something smartass back. I tell him (and this is true) that at least 4 girls are seriously thinking of quitting on him. He says, "Let 'em quit!".

I just keep walking. My daughter is upset with me because she didn't want to go out this way and is worried he will take it out on her this, her senior year in HS. She knows he is wrong, but wants me to try apologizing to this coach so she won't get screwed out of her senior year in softball. I tell her when somebody tries to force a shit-sandwich down your throat, you don't eat it, and if this prick tries to mess with her in HS, I;ll go to the AD, Principal, the League execs, etc if he does.

Am I wrong?