OT: My Mom is losing her memory and I need advice

[grinnindawg]

Find a competent lawyer.
Some of the advice being given on here was not legal 20y ago. The 1st adviser we sought gave some of it.
The Elder lawyers(Huntsville AL) and 2nd financial adviser we saw said it was not legal.

Find a doctor that cares about your mom being comfortable. Full stop.
Docs had my dad on Warfarin.
Found a good doc that took him off that and put him on 1/2 baby aspirin a day.

If they don't already have one, get a living will and DNR. It can help in some situations.
Even so, DNRs meant nothing in our ER. The ER will try and save them.
A hospitalist finally took over and put dad on Hospice.
People who have never been through it can think this callous. They do not understand.

Find some way to relieve stress each day.
Pray, meditate, exercise....
Find a way for your dad to get away for at least an hour or so at times.

Be extra nice and patient with family and care givers.
There is no reason to make an already horrendously stressful situation worse.
Wish we'd always done this.

Depending on the progression, learn to enjoy talking about things that happened long ago.
Often they can remember those. Talking about them seemed to calm dad.

Visit care facilities between 9 and 11. Notice how the residents are being cared for.

If your mom has any monthly income, miraculously care facilities often charge almost all of that.
Almost like there's a correlation there. It may not be as bleak as your dad believes.

Hope this helps.