Are you serious....?
It's college, at the end of the day who gives a 17?!
College is largely a waste of money, regardless of where you go. It's 4-5 years out of her and your life. Get a grip.
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Are you serious....?
It's college, at the end of the day who gives a 17?!
College is largely a waste of money, regardless of where you go. It's 4-5 years out of her and your life. Get a grip.
^^ This is what happens when you go to OM. You think it's a waste of money.
I have a friend who told his son he would pay his way to any place but Ole Miss (even though he is a Wisconsin graduate!). Of course, his son goes to Ole Miss. 12 years later, his UNM graduate son is still in a minimum wage job and blaming his Dad for not giving him more money.
I wish you the best of luck, but work to keep those you cherish from bad choices.
I'm guessing you haven't spent that much time in Oxford? Especially around the girls? Plenty of great people come out of ole miss and state, so it's not the end of the world, but I would have serious concerns about sending my child to Oxford, especially a girl, and it has nothing to do with sports. There are plenty of things that can go wrong in life; why increase the odds?
If that's it, then that's more than a fair thing to consider when assessing it. But I based my assumption that it's primarily about sports on the fact that he listed all the people in his family who went to State. It didn't seem to be based on concern for her, it seemed to be based on the simple reason that he doesn't like the idea that someone in his family would go to Ole Miss.
My kids can go anywhere they want with the understanding that not a dime of my money will ever be sent to Oxford, MS.
My wife and I graduated from State. We live near Atlanta but took our daughter to visit State. She also asked to visit OM. She had high grades and a 30 ACT. We scheduled visits. Got to OM campus around 9am and walked around. No State clothing, of course. Daughter observed that very few students seemed to be awake. Went to the office to sign in. Got the sales spiel. Student tour guides took us around. Daughter observed very little welcoming attitude from students we encountered. Took a lunch break, went to the Square.
"Sweetheart, if you decide to go here I'll do that best I can to be supportive. Wherever you go, I want you to embrace the experience because beyond academics, the culture of your undergraduate institution will play a large part in making you who you will be for the rest of your life. Just consider that."
"Dad, this place doesn't feel right at all. Most of the students we've met this morning seemed stuck up and thought they were too good to talk to us. And that's just the ones who were able to get up before noon."
"You have two scheduled meetings with professors this afternoon."
"Let's just eat lunch and go on down to Starkville. I've seen enough."
Drove out of Oxford for hopefully the last time in my life. Went straight to Starkville. Had a vastly different experience in visiting State the next day. Friendly, welcoming, family. Great visit. My wife and I consciously avoided scale-tipping at both places.
Daughter ended up at Georgia Southern for scholarship reasons, but she cheers for State in the SEC. Looking at State for grad school. Fingers crossed.
The difference between State and OM is obvious when given a fair comparison. Good luck.
We have a similar situation, but not quite as bad.
My son is being recruited by LSU and plans to do an official visit there soon. LSU has been one of the top 3 most hated teams in my household, and he knows this as he is an MSU fan. Unfortunately, MSU does not offer swimming scholarships since there is no swim team @ State. One of two schools (guess the other) that does not provide for swimmers in the SEC, which has quite a few ranked teams.
Speak freely with your daughter and share your concerns/opinions. However, allow her to make her choice. It is difficult, but it is the beginning of adulthood.
Good luck.
Not reading this whole thread. 1. Get in touch with the MSU cheer squad and get her a spot but don't tell her you did that. 2. Buy her a Land Rover if she'll go to MSU instead of Cocaine College. Good luck bud
5 words of advice. DO NOT SEEK THE TREASURE!
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Tell her there's no waaayyyyy, she came from your loins. When you get home, punch her momma in the mouth.
The way I look at it is the WORLD is a very large place, and my exclusion of TSUN (other than Med Center) is a very tiny thing to overlook if they want my financial assistance. I will still love and support them, but will not directly financially support them. Life is FULL of choices.
Explain your situation and I bet she gets a spot on MSU's cheer squad. If she can make the OM cheer squad she can make the MSU one and that's no disrespect towards MSU.
Support her fully in whatever college she chooses. End of story!!!
This is just crazy unless you are rich enough for it to not matter. My kids can go wherever they want, but if they want me to help, they can go to a state school other than Ole Miss, they can go to any school that they get enough aid to be essentially the same cost as a state school, or they can go MIT, Harvard, Yale, or Princeton.
Supporting kids in whatever college they choose is how you get people going $60k in debt to get an undergrad degree from a school like vanderbilt, or even worse, Milsaps or taking on $25k in debt to go to say Auburn when they could go to an instate school for free.